Harriet's Top 10
The following is Harriet's Top 10 List for signs of an abuser. View the full list (and all 50 signs) in the back of Through The Fire.
1) Jealousy and possessiveness
2) Seductive qualities
3) Too much Charisma (take note of the capital 'C')
4) Seems to be the answer to your dreams (if he seems too good to be true, he probably is)
5) The feeling of being swept off your feet (which connects to the next point...)
6) Whirlwind courtship (it's nowhere near as romantic as it sounds)
7) Pressures you to commit early in the relationship before you've had a chance to 'feel it out'
8) Controlling (of each and every single aspect of your life)
9) Monitors and eavesdrops on your conversations
10) Wants to know who's calling/texting/e-mailing you when the phone rings or your cell goes off
This list (and the full version in Through The Fire) can apply to anyone, whether you're in an abusive relationship, scoping out a possible romantic interest, or for those who just wish to arm themselves with knowledge.
